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Are Indians racist? Undoubtedly so. Not only that, but we seem to be humongous hypocrites. On one hand, we blatantly discriminate against. The first time I went on a date with an American guy I was so nervous . Indian couples refrain from openly sharing photos in public or telling. I just want to set the record straight of why Indian men date white women. Back in . In America, Indians as a community have mixed response.
But it is hard for me to understand because I truly — from the bottom of my heart — feel that everyone is equal and no one race or nation or group is superior to another. And why the colour of their skin or where they were born should be any concern to anyone else but themselves. Passing judgement on people without knowing a thing about them is a terrible pastime. I suppose we all size people up by the look of them — judging a book by its cover so to speak.
But taking it any further like that woman did is just awful. Indian men are handsome I love that dark chocolate coloured skin! I started Angela's Bangalore from my hotel room on the very first day I moved to India in , while struck with jet lag! It was my very first blog, the country's very 1st luxury travel blog.
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Has to be just the conservative states?? White people live in a bubble that everything is great and there is no racism in most or all parts of USA. You will be shocked at the current reality..
Sam kind of got right to the point here. For an Indian man dating in LA or NY or Miami can be even harder, not just because of frowning upon it, but because most white women in the United States are biased against dating Indian, M. To the gym I go, and the local India Bazaar grocery store. She was really happy for both of us too. From an Indian guy whose been in a relationship with a white girl, honestly Indian guys out there, if you feel discriminated, or consciously avoided, most of the time it is because of your personal qualities or attractiveness.
Lets be real, is your personality welcoming and interesting? Are you well dressed and well groomed like other American men? Do you work out like most other American men? It is a level playing field, you have to oust your competition. For example, Bollywood actor Rithvik Roshan could get any girl he wanted, regardless of race or anything like that. The problem is that a large portion of us Indians are raised with school first, social life later mindset. As a result you have these 25 year old Indian men that have less interesting personalities, less masculine attractiveness than their caucasian counterparts who have been developing their social skills from the ages of puberty.
To Indian Guys who feel incapable of chasing women you feel you are unsuitable for, stop secluding yourself within boundaries, and do some introspection. It definitely goes both ways and sideways. Both perspectives are presumptuous and disrespectful IMO, but they are often aired, and usually with a protective intent, and mostly people turn them into good-natured jibes or jokes.
It also takes a certain amount of getting over yourself and your own expectations. In our case, we have always been honest about the challenges: If we come out of this as nothing more than good friends it will have been worth the experience. Thank you Sasank for speaking the truth. I am an Indian woman and have preferred to date white men when living in UK precisely for the reasons you have mentioned. I hope more Indians would realise this and improve their social skills without automatically assuming that just because they are men they can reach to any woman they want without first having to work on themselves.
I understood why but it still made me angry. Angela,Its not just you who are curious about Indian men or keen to form a opinion about them. Though what the future holds for such relationships,has a big question mark. It was four years back she hails from North Carolina and was pursuing her graduation from University of Virginia. Soon the romance was in air,from bollywood movies to hollywood,to indian authors,to indian cuisines,to places in india.
The tete a tete lasted for almost for two years. We started dreaming about having a future. I spoke to her dad also on various occasions. She is a Catholic Christian and I am a Hindu and she was adamant of me adopting her religion. I think it was the turning point. Soon she joined Department of Justice and snapped all ties with me. Long Distance Relationships hardly founds a future. Though u are in India and u have Indianized yourself a lot. I hope ur dating and meeting turns out into a beautful Relationship and u will be able to find ur Dream Indian Man.
Thanks for your kind words and for taking the time to be so open and share your experience. I agree most people judge the book by its cover. I respect all cultures and there is positive in every culture that can be gained by dating or marrying people from other culture. However, this needs a lot of patience and understand from each other, which unfortunately has low statistics in this dynamic world.
I am an Indian who dated American and still love her though she left me because of cultural misunderstanding. I know that if a white woman gives me a chance and holds my hand, she will NEVER leave me guaranteed. I just know it. I never dated one, but intend to. I told you about the ignorance around here and it makes the job more challenging. I am a white girl dating an Indian man in NY and believe me it is not easy at all. I have been with my boyfriend for a little less than a year and he has not told his parents about me yet and he told me that she will try to sabotage our relationship if I meet her.
Yeah, that sounds about right. Also means your relationship is going nowhere perhaps. In my personal life, I am dating a woman from the next state — Kerala. You should hear the stories that floats around her relatives thankfully, most of my close relatives are just fine with it. Angela, I am so happy to hear that you have been meeting the right Indian men, and that they do exist. Feel free to send some up to Mumbai for me. Hey there, I really enjoyed that first Sri Lanka blog you launched last week not caught up on rest yet sadly — sounded like so much fun!
Thanks, I loved Sri Lanka, it is high on my list of places to return to. Still got one more blog on Colombo to come in the next week. Did you party in Colombo? I heard it is quite rough there … fights breaking out a lot, etc.. No partying, I was travelling with my parents. I wanted to say that there are 5 guys to one woman here, so anyone who speaks of personality and being cool is full of crap.
I always love reading that someone will pray for me, I find that so touching. Good story but I thought the ending would have been happier for ya!. It will be in the mean time you are a happy person so that the hell live and let live!. Nooooo it is a happy ending in many ways. There was a typo in my earlier comment. She was jealous, she could not be the woman sitting next to this power guy. Most of them have henpecked boring husbands at home. Most Indian woman are not racist, but yearn to the that fair lovely blonde. Part of it is also the general attitude of women and men towards women and the West in this society.
I can say this because the other day I heard a relative of mine take a dig at the West and women in particular, saying that well! The reason she blurted this out was we were watching TV and caught glimpses of women in cute little skirts. I thought they were cute but she had to offload her negativity. According to her, she did the right thing by getting married at 20 and having children while I am 34 and refusing to settle down as of yet.
Deep down I do think she wants to be like me I am very liberal and independent but she did not have the chance to do so because of societal constraints. So she gets over it by taking digs at me and the west sometimes. If she truly accepts what is, maybe her house of cards comes tumbling down. All we can do is bless their small minds even though it can hurt at times. I fell in love with Indian men on my first trip to Indian.
In US I am surrounded by them and never once even took a second look until after coming back to the US. It is really hard for me not to go gaga after them. My first experience was on Diwali. I was dressed in Sari and on an open terrace in office. One of my colleagues was very, very good looking, as most Indian men I have had the pleasure of knowing are. He was also dressed up. We were watching the fireworks all over the city when he started to sing. Such a lovely voice, fireworks…. Nothing ever came of that except that moment, but that was all it took for me. Since then I have had several Indian loves!
I even married one!!! I did also experience this same racist behavior and evil looks there while I was in Indian. The majority of my friends are men and excuse me if I am friendly! The only thing I could really compare it to is how some black women in the US many of which are friends of mine would get so upset that their black brother was dating a white woman. I am happy to say that my inlaws are thrilled with our relationship. Some of the villagers may not be so much, but that is only perhaps because it becomes reality for them that this lone villager came to America and became successful and if he had married one of their daughters they would also be successful.
Glad you got to experience the dating scene in India and also glad you are not letting this one situation deter you. The fireworks story is sweet, one moment that stays with you is sweet. Best of luck with your marriage and kudos on winning over the in-laws! Such men are not worthy of you or any woman for that matter simply for the fact that they have no respect for women. Its not the color that matters, it takes a real man and true love above all to beat every obstacle and accept you the way your are… And for the Indian woman who ruined your evening would have had her own reasons for doing so… not that she would have known you as a divorcee with a kid or not even because you are a foreigner, but maybe simply because she knew the guy on date with you… possible Well, if your quest for finding the RIGHT MAN continues, I wish you good luck… Cheers!!!
Thanks for taking the time to comment and for your concern. I hope you dont meet such people who pass such unacceptable comments. That was totally uncalled for. As an Indian married to a white woman for a decade, I could certainly relate to your story. We are from the liberal eastern seaboard part of the country. I am sure our experience would have been much more delightful down in the enlightened south. Not one of them has the cojones to say that to our face, of course. My wife is mostly oblivious to all that or does not seem to care all that much but it sure does sour my mood to the extent of avoiding such small-minded, nasty, negative-vibes emitting groups in public.
It feels so sad that you will be judged automatically without even them knowing you as a person but just because of your race. I admire the respect they gave to their moms and what the rest of their relatives has to say but its just sad its so rare a man has successfully stand up and speak what his heart beats for when it comes to love. All marriages always have been either a bloody start or a man completely disown by his family.
There is no amount of pain I can describe losing my Indian love but it has come to a conclusion that I do not matter much than what his mother or family has to say and now he has to end up in an arranged marriage. My situation is even less complex and I also have conservative values like they do but still it has not validate anything to make them consider me to be a part of their family. Its a complete no, we do not want to talk about her and you should have an Indian wife. It sucks because it is rude, ignorant and racist. As for my perception, I was kind of stuck there and had unnecessary fears of the new and unknown.
Some fears were of people of cultures I had never been in the presence of before. It was a long process. Now, I am still learning and constantly studying a new language and culture, including Telegu and Hindi. I speak several languages. I also live in a diverse metropolitan area with large exposure to many cultures. I enjoy this experience exceedingly and often. For example, one of my sisters cannot stand hearing spanish spoken. So much a difference and freedom in getting out of a small frame of mind and aspect. It really does often start with fear of unknown.
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Most Indians are innately gracious, social creatures; they highly value friends and family and have a calendar filled with various holidays and occasions to celebrate, which they typically do with gusto. These are innocent enough questions. Rani Mukherjee or Kareena Kapoor. Yes, I called them naive. White women can have abortions. Can I see one photo of you in jeans? Because you are better than this.
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